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-Henry David Thoreau, Walden
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What would you consider warning signs when talking to a guy?


i-am-mishafuckingcollins:

misandry-mermaid:

cocoamoon:

saturnineaqua:

christel-thoughts:

littlefo0t:

blackgirlsrpretty2:

  • "My ex is crazy." In most cases not true. He is most likely the crazy one.
  • If he’s over 18 and not in school and doesn’t work or have a car (and isn’t trying to either) he’s a bum and is most likely looking for someone to monetarily provide for him
  • If you do date someone who has a child (which I don’t recommend) but if it does happen be VERY cautious if you NEVER hear him speak about his children, spending time with them, see him with them..etc… he most likely aint shit and will talk about his child’s mother being crazy (which jumps back to my first point)… especially if he has more than one with different women….RUN (he doesn’t like to use condoms and if you get pregnant it will be a YOU problem)
  • Guys who spend money on things he wants instead of needs…. and when he needs something you have to pay for it (like dudes who have weed but no money to eat)
  • Guys who ask for nudes or talk anything sexual within the first few conversations without invitation
  • Guys who put down other women. Like the guy who doesn’t like dark skinned women or talks shit about women who wear weave but doesn’t date women with natural hair…
  • Guys with the “Lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets” mentality. Normally are against anything pro-women…
  • If he already within a first few conversations is jealous or angry towards the idea of you talking to other guys. 

So many other things but it’s 5am and I can’t think…

Most of this list sums up my college dating experience

Anybody who says “I would never let my girl (insert thing an adult should have the freedom to decide whether or not to do here)”

if they try to separate you from the people you care about

if you have a suspicion that they’re insecure about any of your accomplishments

if he says “females” instead of “women”, “ladies” or even “girls”

the first time you hear him refer to a woman as a “bitch”, “thot”, “ho”, etc and he can’t reasonably explain how that term applies, just has some throwaway answer…she probably rejected him in the past or has her own mind. He’ll be calling you that after he does something shitty enough for you to leave.

if he tries to control the things you do or own (pets , vacations etc) without actually making any commitment to you.

(this ones connected to my fist one) if he tries to make you give up or abandon something for his love example “would you give up your dog for me?” (was actually asked of me in a very sweetheart, romantic big eyed tone)

if he’s so “busy”.

if he only seems to call you around for sex.

if he is constantly trying to pressure you into sexual acts you have previously told him makes you uncomfortable.

if he tries to make you feel insecure or foolish for enjoying the things you enjoy.

if he only seems to care about you, or becomes jealous the second you begin another relationship.

(and this sorta goes without saying) has no problem dating someone much much younger than him, or taking advantage of teenagers.

etc

Just to add:
(sorry if these were already mentioned)

• If he uses his “strong emotions” for you to manipulate you ex: I get so depressed when you go x amount of time without calling me

• if he says, “but I’m a nice/good guy” to get to you to do something you’ve said you’re uncomfortable with

• if he’s never where he says he will be when he says he’ll be there OR keeps you waiting an excessive amount of time

• if he stalks your social media profiles

• if he says “if I were gonna hurt you, don’t you think I would’ve done it by now?”

Basically, if it don’t feel right, it ain’t right.

if he denies things that have happened, especially details that incriminate him… for example you were having an argument and he pushes you, but later says he didn’t

if he raises his voice but demands that you speak softly or calmly

if he reinforces other double standards, like the idea that you aren’t allowed to talk to/be friends with other men but calls you insecure or crazy if you mention that he talks to/is friends with women

if he claims your personal property as his own without permission

if he guilts you into doing things for him consistently without reciprocation

if he speaks in a derogatory way about women when around his male friends, or his personality changes drastically for the worse when the room is dominated by men

IF HE SAYS “I LOVE YOU” AND YALL AINT EVEN DATING YET OR ARE IN THE BABY STAGES

RUN

RUN FOR THE HILLS

You’re going to have people who are going to say ‘Oh, you know like, she just writes songs about her ex-boyfriends’ and I think frankly that’s a very sexist angle to take. No one says that about Ed Sheeran. No one says it about Bruno Mars. They’re all writing songs about their exes, their current girlfriends, their love-life, and no one raises a red flag there.

Taylor Swift on some peoples views on her songwriting (x)

Slaying with the truth from country to country.

(via tree-paine)

natashabadassromanoff:

fuckyeah-nerdery:

Maybe Sam Pepper should have watched this episode.

Even a children’s show character knows the importance of consent. 

natashabadassromanoff:

fuckyeah-nerdery:

Maybe Sam Pepper should have watched this episode.

Even a children’s show character knows the importance of consent. 

Someone calling a white person ‘wonder bread’ isn’t racist. It’s rude, but it’s not racist. Wonder bread as an offensive term has no weight, no meaning. It’s just something to push your buttons. Using the N-word is racist - it has meaning and weight and brings up a past that should’ve never happened. The comparison between rude and racist is like squares and rectangles - every square is a rectangle, but not every rectangle is a square. Every racist comment you hear is rude, but not every rude comment you hear is racist.
from an in-class debate about white supremacy  (via witch-kun)

kittygoesnomnom:

what’s really amazing to me is that people are so afraid of body hair on women that even in a shaving commercial they won’t show a hairy leg. they demonstrate the razor by shaving a hairless leg. they show their product being completely useless instead of showing leg hair. it’s just crazy

captainamericaisavirgin:

blackzephyrus:

captainamericaisavirgin:

feminism never made me hate men but the reaction to feminism sure as shit did

some men* you literally cannot hate people you’ve never met or even heard of.

oh MY GOD OH MY GOD OHH M Y GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OHHHYM GOD OH MY GOD OH MY OD OOOOOH MY GOD oh MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD O H MY GO D OH MY GOD O H M Y GO D OH MY GOD OH MY GOD

solarsenpai:

generally:

im fuckin dying 

"all she wanted was to eat her chicken nuggets in peace…"I am fucking screaming

solarsenpai:

generally:

im fuckin dying 

"all she wanted was to eat her chicken nuggets in peace…"

I am fucking screaming

astrofemme:

lowbrasschikah:

I thought this was so nice

GIRLS BEING NICE TO OTHER GIRLS

astrofemme:

lowbrasschikah:

I thought this was so nice

GIRLS BEING NICE TO OTHER GIRLS

savvymavvy:

methlabrador:

when people say “i dont believe in science”

what are you even talking about

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p0kemina:

builttobulk:

secretlyybroken:

Weight should be like virginity.
Once you lose it you can’t get it back.

Ohhhh. I thought you were gonna say “Weight should be like virginity: a societal ideal by which we shouldn’t measure our personal worth.”

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